Poor Time Management May Be Dangerous To Your Personal Relationships

When people think, time management, they think efficiency, their minds take a trip on the to list train, they ponder how they can have more time in their lives. They rarely think how poor time management skills can impact their relationships, both personally and professionally on an interpersonal level.

Time Management impacts all areas of one's life and relationships suffer when a person has bad time management skills. Respect, trust, dependability are impacted. People lose respect for an individual when promises are made and broken because tasks are not getting completed when they are committed to be done. Trust is impacted in the same manner and so is your dependability factor. 

Whether they want to or not, people avoid counting on a person who has demonstrated the inability or lack of dependability to achieve a task in a timely manner. This takes away a basic foundational aspect of a personal relationship... trust. Over time this can be very damaging to personal relationships. When trust in one's ability to deliver on commitments is lost it bleeds into multiple areas of the relationship and becomes muddy water under the relationship bridge. This can build up, resentment can begin to take hold and believability is impacted on a grander scale. 

This can happen at work or home. 

Further impacts extend to more hours at work and less at home or the alternate can happen as well, more time spent at home which means less at work. Both of these can result in job security at multiple levels. This can then impact the financial bottom line and it is widely recognized the number one reason for break ups is financial. 

Aside from the personal relationships, a person with poor time management skills often feels the weight of the world is on their shoulders, that they are unable to catch up, and many times they give up. Better to not try at all then to try and fail... this is not a comfortable place to be in. I'm writing this because I've been there. I know how poor time management skills is harmful to relationships because I went through it a long time ago and it is a tender reminder in times of need to motivate me to remain an effective time manager. 

Being effective at time management isn't super difficult. It requires a person to create a process, stick to the process and resulting schedule, and re-evaluating every week to make sure you're on track. The hard part is getting into the habit of the process, scheduling, and follow through but once you've broken past that process you'll find in general you achieve more, you're more focused on the future, you have more time to balance home and work life balance, and people in your life will have more trust in your ability to keep your commitments. 

There are many resources available online to developing effective time management. Coaches are great resources to help you develop time management skills more personalized to your needs and keep you on track with your goals. I work with many clients in this area. 

I also offer great online courses about time management, goal planning and action planning which are all intertwined at an intricate level. Check them out below.

• Become an Effective Time Manager 101
• Design your Desired Future: Analyze, Self-Discover, and Create a Starting Point on Your Success Path
• Design your Desired Future: Short and Long Term Goals
• Design your Desired Future: Prioritize and Downsize Goals to Create Effective Action Plans
• Design your Desired Future: Action Plans, Setting it all In Motion

Anyone of the links above also has a referral to receive three months unlimited access to Skillshare (an online learning platform with over hundreds of classes taught by hundreds of teachers) for only $0.99. If you want to get started right away at becoming an effective time manager, are looking to work at your own pace, or want to learn coaching tools without going to a coach then these classes are a great resource. 

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Reasons Why People Fail at Time Management

I've found one of the biggest areas of focus with clients is Time Management. There are others that rank up there; stress management, confidence, leadership skills, and relationships to name a few but Time Management is a huge area of opportunity for many and it's often a point of discussion with clients because it impacts every area of a person's life.

In today's fast paced world it seems that more and more is put on our plates but we don't get additional time. There are only so many hours in a day and until that changes, time management is going to be a challenge for many people. The closest thing a person can get to in regards to having more time in a day is effective time management.

But time management is not something we come by easily. There are a lot of ways a person can fail at managing time and many of those are listed below. The simple truth is that effective time management is a learned skill and for those that have put the time in to develop the right behaviors and habits to support good management of time the rewards are plenty. 

• There is a reason why time management and organization are usually grouped together in the same conversation. Lack of organization makes effective time management difficult. One must be able to organize daily, weekly, and monthly tasks in order to create an effective schedule complete with deadlines to find effective time management.
• Lack of follow through is a huge deterrent to being able to effectively manage time. Sometimes people get through many of the steps of time management (future visualization, long/short term goals, prioritizing and setting deadlines, and plugging everything into the daily schedule only to fail at the follow through or follow up.
• Procrastination is a word very few people like to be associated with but, in truth, everyone has the capability to procrastinate. Many do this without even recognizing they are until it is too late. 
• Finding a system/process that works for you. One size does not fit all. I've had clients that easily adhere to scheduling hour by hour and others need to chunk time and assign tasks. Some need a hard binder/planner to carry with them while others prefer online or apps. The key to find success here is to find a system that works for you.
• Recognize time management impacts all areas of one's life. Time management is most effective when people manage both their personal and professional lives. Only focusing on one area will make it more difficult in the other areas. 
• Putting time in the beginning for a smoother ending. I hear this all the time when I start working with clients on time management. "You're asking me to spend more time on this when I don't have enough." In this case, putting time in the beginning, developing a process that works for you in regards to time management will actually help you find more time on the back end of the project. It will also reduce stress. 
• To do lists are imperative. If you don't have a 'to do' list with tasks and goals effectively prioritize how do you know what to plug into your schedule and when it needs to be completed. 
• Setting goals. Setting short and long term goals to help you reach the intended outcome helps you to organize what needs to be done, how much time you should spend on it, and helps you to avoid procrastination.
• Distractions take you away from your scheduled day. This is going to happen. Understanding this and preparing for this will help to keep you on track. 
• Priorities are super important and often forgotten in the midst of planning or the wrong priorities are put on the wrong task. Be realistic about how long it is going to take to get a job done and prioritize accordingly. 
• Overloading/overwhelming workload. People with poor time management skills have a hard time saying no, being honest about whether or not they can take on another task, being organized enough to make it happen and find themselves, often, overloaded and overwhelmed. This can happen to even the best planners but they also feel comfortable with saying no and delegating which helps to make this manageable. 
• Thriving in chaos and multitasking. Believe it or not, thriving in chaos is not a good time management trait and multitasking can be helpful but it can also stretch a person thin and like juggling, balls get dropped. I used to say I thrived in chaos and was known for my multitasking but that didn't make me a good manager of time it made me a manager who ran around all day putting out fires, living in chaos mode stressed me out and made life and my job more difficult. A good manager of time understands this, they understand their limitations, they live in a world where stress happens but doesn't take over their lives because they have the skills to make things better.  
• Delegation is imperative. This is not an understatement. Ever hear the saying, 'it takes a village'?  Being able to delegate and knowing your limitations will make or break your time management planning.
• Breaks. Someone with poor time management takes too many or not enough breaks. It's like swinging the pendulum and remaining in the overcompensating realm instead of finding your way back to center. Schedule in breaks, know how much time you need to spend on tasks, and plan accordingly. Your life will be much happier. 
• Rewards. I've been a coach for over ten years and this is one area many people struggle in. I'm amazed at how many people laugh at me or refuse to consider this when they plan.

All of the above are reasons why time management fails. They all have a couple things in common. These skills can be learned/adjusted and they all depend on you being able to do them/or not do them in some cases. Bottom line you can make the changes necessary in your life to impact your personal and professional life and you can create a solid time management plan that works for you.

A coach can help if you're struggling in these areas. They will help you identify the behaviors that are corrupting your success at effective time management and they will help you design a plan of attack to readjust/change that behavior that is sabotaging your potential success. A great coach will help you drill down from an outside perspective what you're missing. It is easy to get lost in a forest when all you can see are the trees. Imagine having a guide to help you navigate the forest and find a way out. 

A life coach is not just a luxury, they are a necessity for people who want to be successful. This holiday season give the gift that keeps giving and consider adding a life coach to your list of helpers like the landscaper/gardener, the cook, or the maid. You will be surprised what changes you can make that will move you further down that path of success. 

For the month of December and January I'm offering my packages and individual coaching sessions at a 30% for those looking for help with Time Management. When you call or set up your first appointment (which is free) just use the coupon code MANAGEROFTIME for the discount. Check out all my packages here.

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Signs and Symptoms of Poor Time Management

Time Management is a learned skill, necessary to find success in most areas of one's life. If you effectively manage your time things get done in a timely manner, you are less stressed, you find more time in your day, week, month for important things, and you're mind is clear and open to opportunities that the universe presents to you. It allows you to create goals, dreams, visions of the future. It ensures you have the ability and time to work toward those dreams. People find they have more time for the people in their lives, to nourish their relationships, and build stronger connections. It allows people to rest, relax, and helps people sleep better at night. The list goes on and on at how effective time management impacts a person's life in the positive.

Ineffective time management has a negative effect on people. How effective is your time management? Do the positives above fit you or are they what you're striving to achieve? Do you show signs of poor time management? Recognizing how effective you are in managing your time can help you to learn the skills necessary to improve your time management. Below is a list of signs that indicate poor time management.

• Missed appointments. This is an obvious one. Are you a person who is constantly missing appointments, late for dates, known to be late to a party? This isn't a fashionably late, I planned this kind of impression but a consistently late, I've got a time management problem. Being late has a deeper impact then how people perceive you but it also hurts the individual that is consistently late because they are stressed.
• Forget tasks. This one can be a little more subtle. Perhaps you think you're just forgetful. It happens. But 'forgetting tasks' is a sign of poor time management. Good organization is an indication of good time management and if a person is organized they probably have a system in place to remember what needs to be done (usually in the form of a schedule or to do list). 
• Missed deadlines, don't make deadlines, and paying late fees or penalties are more signs of poor time management. One of the essential learned skills in effective time management requires a person to create a schedule and adhere to that schedule. This makes missing deadlines and paying late fees a thing of the past. This also requires a person to make deadlines for goals.
• Lack of goals, vision, and/or dreams. This is perhaps one of the most damaging impacts of poor time management, second only to stress (which I like to call the silent killer). Imagine a world where the future looked bleak, one of the main causes of this bleak outlook on the future is not having goals, dreams, a vision or success plan to get to the desired future. These are important factors to keep a person moving forward. It is so important that when I meet with a client for a consultation it is one of the first things we look at. First, the potential client analyzes the balance of the most important areas in their life and then they talk about their goals, dreams, visions of the future, specifically for the low rated areas in their lives. It is a starting point. If you can dream it, you can make it happen... but there are steps that need to happen to get there and that is where the goal planning comes into place.
• Chaos is common place in your life. This can range anywhere from always putting out fires, messy home/car/work area, can't find things or things are misplaced, inbox is overflowing with messages, you're constantly trying new apps or systems to get things under control which spread you thin and creates larger messes because things are all over the place... sound familiar? Lack of organization plays a role in this area of time management. Organization is another essential part of managing time. 
• Constantly feeling stressed and overwhelmed. This stems from many things. Perhaps tasks keep piling up and you're not getting anything done, procrastination comes out to play or worse you feel so stressed and overwhelmed you just throw your hands up in the air and do nothing. This is very real and very damaging. 
• Unable to relax or sleep. I've often found a connection between relaxation/sleep and poor time management, especially in the case where a client can't turn their mind off at night to allow them to sink into the regenerative abyss of sleep. Having good time management skills can often times help in this area because you're mind is able to relax, confident that the things on the mental 'to do' list will get done.
• Making promises you can't keep, can't say no, task overload to the point you're working during meeting, having to work late, and living in the 'head down' mode. Sound familiar? An individual with good time management skills knows what they can handle and what they can't. They rarely get caught up in a position where their back is to the wall and they can't perform and if they are heading down that path they are able to identify this and delegate tasks to others or ask for help in order to get back on track. A person with good time management generally knows their limitations and has the clear mind that is necessary to fix most traps they fall into.
• Poor performance, indecisiveness, and perfectionism which often leads to missed opportunities are other signs of ineffective time management. 
• Lack of energy, feeling impatient, stressed relationships at home and in one's professional lives also often stem from poor time management. Sometimes these come from other areas but one root cause to problems in these areas is time management.
• Doing everything yourself is also a sign of poor time management. A good time manager understands how to effectively delegate. 

There are other signs but these are the big red flags. If you find yourself fitting into one or more of these categories a look at your time management skills is very important. You may be stressing yourself, your work and home relationships needlessly. Let's face it. We all would like life to go smoothly. If you had the ability to make small changes now that could impact your life on so many fronts wouldn't you want to do so?

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If you think you need help right away check out my website here, send me a request for a free consultation at the right hand side of this blog and lets see if personalized coaching is a good fit for you. Through the month of December and January, while this series of Time Management posts are happening I'm offering my coaching sessions and packages at 30% off for any clients seeking Time Management help. Check out my packages here. The coupon code for the discount is MANAGEROFTIME

Some future posts on this topic will include:

• Why Time Management Fails
• How to self analyze your time management skills
• Time Management Case studies
• Common steps to get on track with Time Management

As I mentioned above, effective time management is a learned skill, it's not something a person is born with. It takes time to cultivate but the rewards are far greater than the pain of changing the behaviors that are obstacles to achieving your goals in this area. I believe it's also a foundational skill to building a successful life plan. It's why I choose this one to focus on first. I hope you found this post valuable. Thank you for subscribing and taking the first step to making a change in this area of your life. Have a wonderful day.